Keith Alan Raniere lived the life of a classic narcissist - everything was about him. But it came to an abrupt end on March 26, 2018 when he was arrested. he has not seen freedom since then.

G: Keith is ‘la grandioso’ narcissist

  Things narcissists do exactly as Keith did (just in case you’re in doubt that KAR is a narcissist) By G. Why was it important Keith Raniere portray himself as having one of the highest IQ’s recorded, if not the highest? To establish an upper hand over others, that he looks at life a whole […]


Things narcissists do exactly as Keith did (just in case you’re in doubt that KAR is a narcissist)
By G.
Why was it important Keith Raniere portray himself as having one of the highest IQ’s recorded, if not the highest?
To establish an upper hand over others, that he looks at life a whole lot better than you.
The “I’m right, I can do that better, I know more than you” bit.
Why the collateral aka confessions, whether true or fabricated?
Narcissists want to figure out your weak spots, your vulnerabilities.
What better way than for Keith to couch it in terms of “this is for your betterment, to help keep you to your word. “
Yet he kept asking for more, building a dossier.
In the beginning a narcissist, such as Keith – as he did with Toni Natalie – encourages you to pour out your heart and soul, wanting you to learn to trust them. They may even openly state it that way.
But it is a pseudo nature of trust because all the while the narcissist is taking notes.
Keith soon got others to do this for him, with the graphic pics, the written confessions, always asking for more and the more being more outrageous.
Hearsay isn’t as good as self confession, embarrassing nude pics and handwritten confessions, is it?
Now the narcissist aka Keith knows your flaws.
Notice how soon NXIVM went from self-help to bashing the feminine sex? “Women aren’t loyal like men,” yada yada.
Now the criticism and judgement take sway. They will point out your flaws, your lack of character, that he knows who you are and you are not nearly as good as you think you are.
And you, you poor schnook, you thought they were talking to you in a loving and accepting exchange but that’s not the way a narcissist works.
Remember Nancy Salzman, his right hand gal?
After he used what he could from her, Keith did, as narcissists do, started to engage in tearing her down.
Build up, for a short time, then tear down. Classic narcissist. What we now term as cognitive dissonance. Probably added a bit of gas lighting for good measure.
This way the narcissist keeps you off balance, in fear, not knowing what’s next. What better way to keep power over others, eh?
Yep, Keith is la grandioso narcissist.
Usually, they’re just garden variety abusers, but Keith did those guys one better when he snagged the Bronfman money.
I wonder.  What is it Clare and Sara really get/got out of NXIVM and knowing Keith?
I would love to get inside their head.

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  • Frank, it is written “el grandioso”, “el” Is masculine, “la” is femenine in Spanish.

    • Yes la is feminine in Spanish and I think appropriately being used to describe Keith. He is not masculine. Real men don’t rape children and women, or brand with hot irons or put them on starvation diets and sleep deprivation. Keith is not human! Dirt bag lowlife scum who will never see the light of day again!

  • Excellent observations g. Thank you. Heidi I do recall a piece Frank wrote about Clare where I think he got the sense she was rather shy and socially awkward. I could be misremembering but, if I am right, I wonder if that could have been an act to draw him in. You could be right, Heidi and she is also a narcissist. She is someone, given her wealth, is used to getting her way and her track record shows she will do anything to attain her goal. Her goal now is to be found not guilty.

    • Yes, I read that too, Leon, and heard it from Frank himself that Clare came off as a soft spoken, lost little lamb seeking direction from him etc. But even as Frank was telling me of their encounters — especially the astral projection dream Clare said she had about Frank — I was thinking, “Man, were you ever played.” He was even invited to live in Clare’s ranch house.

      My opinion, a certain number of the main squeezes were deliberately working Frank’s ego at KAR’s & Nancy Salzman (who offered herself to Frank) behest. Remember the “baby soft” deodorant commercial jingle that went “you can play hard, or you can play soft, soft will get ‘em every time.”

      Luring in short-term fall guys was KAR’s pattern again and again. In Frank’s case, Roger Stone and Steve Pigeon baited the hook, too. With the Bronfman $$$ and abundance of woman with little competition around, what mortal man could resist?

      Nancy specialized in agent provacatuer type NLP programming from the get-go.

      • I do remember that ad, Heidi, and it is true the soft approach does work well and money is hard to resist. Look how many people were lured into the web with sweet promises and once they were in and collateral was secured, the masks were off and the slaves had to do the bidding of their masters. Fortunately there were people like Frank, Toni, John, Sarah, Catherine who spoke out and kept speaking out until they were heard. The day of reckoning is drawing closer and the spider webs have all been swept out of the corners.

      • Hi Heidi,

        What is the “suicide module”?,
        I can not find any information about it on this website. Could you please leave a link to an article? I would greatly appreciate it.


  • I remember when Keith recruited me. I wish I kept the brochures they sent.

  • Yes, great take on KAR’s brand of narcissism, G. I only observed Clare Bronfman for a couple of weeks at the Precision trial but don’t know if anyone else but Frank can or will respond regarding her on here. She’s a very good, very confident, casual liar, IMO. Not delusional or deluded. She followed her attorney’s lead and slid around some to get the “right” answer her attorney was soliciting from her — only way to detect she was lying.

    She may be a narcissist herself, IMO. She seemed to delight in the process of skewering her opponents. I wanted to feel sorry for her — help convince her Dad to get her out of the cult and show mercy on the Plyams — but just couldn’t when I saw how she enjoyed deceiving others — much as KAR does.

  • g, fear not. Raniere’s fellow inmates are literally beating and f*cking the narcissism out of him.

  • Frank, you remind me of a child reading the Hardy Boys series and seeing a fluke in some off-hand mention of a quality of stone which had nothing to do with the actual plot. The plot here is the American justice system – not your celebrity lesbian trysts.

    • I didn’t write this article or any of the comments on this thread…..?

  • Excellent article.

    The Bronfmans? There are a lot of people out there searching for meaning in life or wishing to be part of a movement to better society. He seemed to offer it. I suspect he also capitalized on most people’s desire for power in one form or another. It might have been easier to swallow when he told them that the ends justify the means – no matter what.

    He must be very persuasive. Toni, astute as she is, asked him why, with his high IQ, he was running an MLM buying club with rather than aiming for something like curing cancer. His answer that he was using the MLM as a “platform” was very telling. It was a platform, all right, for him to get money, admiration and power. His next “platform,” NXIVM, was better thought out and more suited to his real purposes.

    Narcissists are a dime a dozen, but with the Bronfman money and his large, protective following, KAR was enabled to escalate his behavior as far as he wanted. Thank God he is stopped for now.

    • When Raniere was put out of business making money with Consumers’ Buyline, he decided to put more emphasis on his multiple partner sex life. Simple as that.

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